On sex and spirituality

Here’s an article that makes some interesting and accurate points about sex and spirituality. The gist is this:

The fact that it is so very, very popular in sex-positive communities to put sexuality in the realm of the mystical by defining it as “spiritual” or “sacred” doesn’t make me feel warm and fuzzy; it gives me a numbing chill because what I really hear is shame. I hear people making excuses for their kinks and their pleasure. That so much talk about sexuality is wrapped in platitudes about spirituality, magic(k), or transcendence shows how deeply we’ve failed in being able to discuss sexual pleasure as a good thing in itself, without any excuses.

All the paganism, Tantra, meditation, sacred sex, and BDSM sex magic(k) books and workshops represent a step backward. They are very convenient ways of rationalizing sexual pleasure by letting people claim that it’s about “something more” than just making your body feel good. All the sweat and cum and juices and the delicious, confusing carnality of sex get shoved back into the closet in favor of much tidier abstractions so that we can believe that we’re not just shallow hedonists. And that takes us back to square one, where we were told by our teachers, priests, and parents that sex was good — or at least acceptable — when done for any reason other than physical pleasure.

Some people are commenting that the author is trying to take away the spiritual aspect of their sexual experiences. Instead, what I take from the article is that we shouldn’t need sex to be spiritual for it to be worthwhile, and we should be careful to acknowledge that the down-and-dirty, carnal conceptualization of sex is something worth having. Sex is good when done for physical pleasure.

Here’s the rest of the article.

(via Greta Christina)

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